Sunday, February 17, 2008

Explaining Crushes

After two serious posts, I thought that before I got 'typecast' as only a political writer, I'd post something fun and frivolous. Now, me being me I'm not sure if I'll be able to keep the political away. After all, the personal is political, right? But, for this post I'm leaving it aside and just posting on something frivolous. Straight girl crushes!

What do I mean? Well, I'm referring to straight girls having crushes on other girls. But is this possible? Yes, it is I say. I have them. Just three. But I have them. And they are celebrity crushes - Sushmita Sen, Roselyn Sanchez, and Salma Hayek.

My crushes are not sexual at all. I have no desire whatsoever to have any sexual interaction with these women. I am simply in awe of their beauty and love seeing them. And in the case of Sushmita Sen and Salma Hayek I have a lot of admiration for them. Their talent, their attitude, the way they handle themselves in interviews. What I know of them impresses me. With Roselyn, it's simply that I think she's hot and nice to look at. And that I think it would be cool to look like her. Not sexual - just admiration. To me, this is what distinguishes a straight girl crush from others. The crush is based on sense of admiration of some sort, not a sexual attraction necessarily.

Now, there is a reason that my two crushes are women who are not White. I think White women are beautiful but White beauty is not something I can aspire towards. Especially not the beauty portrayed in our North American media. I will never have the Caucasian look. But I am South Asian like Sushmita, and I could pass for Hispanic like Roselyn or Salma. Not that I will look like any of them unless I get plastic surgery (which I have no intention of getting) but seeing women who are of my ethnicity or close to it, validates my own potential for beauty.

For women to see beautiful women of their own ethnicity is extremely important. It says that there people out there, many people, who feel that you can be beautiful too. If all the beautiful women were only White, then the message we would be receiving would say "sorry, you people have no beauty among you and can never be beautiful." Therefore, to have women with similar features as us tells us that we can be considered beautiful by the world.

I have no tendencies toward lesbianism or bisexuality. I am only attracted to men. But I enjoy my girl crushes, and obviously, now have no problem with admitting them.

Well, I had intended to keep the political away from this post. But looks like it didn't happen.


Zeynab said...

YAAAAAAAY! I have some, too. And I will list them here! Sharing is caring!

Salma Hayek: effing HOT. She's biracial, curvy, and short. And she's a ball-buster; I like that in a woman.

Maria Callas: She was the dignified drama queen we all secretly want to be. And what a set of pipes!

Tina Fey: She's funny, cute, and feminist. I can definitely aspire to that.

There are too many beautiful women. I can't even list them all; these are just the first ones that come to mind.

Farheen said...

Ohh...I LOVE Salma Hayek. I would say I have a crush on her too. I'll add her to my entry. She is sooooo cool.